An open letter about why crying at work is OKAY and what to do when it happens.
Updated: Oct 10
You should not do many things at work and, for some reason, crying is one of those things. I am one of those people who will cry wherever I am. If the emotion strikes, I am not going to hold it back. I wouldn’t hold back a smile in public if I am happy; why is this emotion any different?
I spend just as much time at my workplace as at home. I may spend even more time at work than at home, which is why I find it oddly comforting to be open enough to allow myself to cry at work when needed.
As embarrassing as it may be, a lot of people find themselves crying in front of their colleagues at some point for work-related frustrations or personal situations. Sometimes, tears just cannot be held back. When these moments hit, here are some things you can do to gather yourself and get back to work accordingly:
Hide out in the bathroom for a little. This will allow you to take a moment for yourself and help you get back to a calmer state. Take deep breaths and clean yourself up.
Take a walk or go get a treat. If the bathroom is not an ideal spot, go for a walk. Clear your mind while taking in the fresh air. Re-hashing the situation will only make you feel worse, so try not to think about it. Just try to focus on your body moving and get your mind off of what is making you sad or upset. Maybe during the walk, you can stop into your favorite coffee shop and pick yourself up a treat to cheer you up.
Focus on your work. After you cleared your mind, throw yourself back into your work. Answer emails that have been building up in your inbox, or do the most annoying, most brain-encasing thing you can do to take your mind off what is making you upset, even if it is only temporarily.
If you feel the tears coming back on, take a deep breath. Try taking slow breaths to allow yourself to calm down. Look up at the ceiling while you breathe and focus on that spot for at least 10 seconds. You can even try distracting yourself by listening to happy music or a funny podcast.
We all have bad days, especially at work. Crying does not mean you are weak or cannot handle your assignment. There may just be a lot of stress and emotion attached to it that allows you to feel this way. Do not look at it as a negative thing. Just remember that you can get through it.
We are here for you and know you can do this!
Hugs & Cookies,